Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Sugasm #173



HNT courtesy of Secrets of a Blue-Eyed Vixen.


The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #174? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.


This Week’s Picks

Dressing Room Voyeur

“I caught his gaze this time, on purpose.”


It’s Always the Quiet Ones…

“So grabbing her hips, I pulled her in for a kiss.”


Behind Closed Doors

“Others had watched, she beat me, brought me to tears, held me and then began to untie me.”

Sugasm Editor

The Mouse Drama


Editor’s Choice

Let the Rain Come


More Sugasm

Join the Sugasm


(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)


News, Reviews & Interviews

Book Review: Anal Pleasure and Health

Champion

Earth Angel podcast review - the first 100% green sex toy!

LELO Gigi

Lelo Gigi Made Me A Very Happy Girl!


Thoughts on Sex & Relationships

Dating Options 101: Whatchagot

Finally, my thoughts on marriage equality

I hate online dating period


BDSM & Fetish

Being Bendy, Beaten and Punished

Make Me Want It

Male Chastity Devices

Miss Susan, Nick B and Montreal Fetish Weekend

Moments

The One I Miss the Most

Sissy Hubby

Spanking Fake

Tuesday Night - The First Time


NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

2 Pretty maids severely spanked

Aimee Addison

Deep cutting cane stripes

Hal-Nekkid Anniversary pt2

Huge wobbly buttocks

Kelly Brook in Sexy Lingerie

Sunflowers part III

Take Comfort


Sex Advice

Can a Woman Feel When a Man Ejaculates Inside Her?

How To Fuck in Public or Recession Era Hook-up Spots


Erotic Writing & Experiences

The Accidental Orgy

Blowjobs and Beautiful People

The Conclusion of the Duchess’s Adventure

Cottage Country part 1

Countdown. Confession #340

Dance the Night Away, Part 2

Darklady’s Detention Hall (an Event Report)

Flasher: Regrets

Glow

HNT: The Gift

Keys

Lessons Learned (1/2)

Red And Blue Make…

Rub Me Up The Right Way

She Deserves Better

The Succubus Wakes

Voicemail

Working.


Erotic Poetry

Her Warmth

Licking The Beatles

Sunday, September 20, 2009

In Defense of Second Base


First base is kissing - how deeply may be open to debate, but the fact remains - it is universally agreed that first base has been reached once two sets of lips meet.

Third base? Well in my mind, that involves two people naked, but neither have either penetrated nor been penetrated. Some may allow for oral sex at this base, and some may not. Personally I would allow it, as I believe that a sound argument can be made for a the sanctity of a person's virginity if they have only experienced oral sex. (I could write an entire post on this topic, but it's not my immediate point for today...)

Home base? Well, be it with a tongue or fingers or cock thrusting into pussy - I think we can agree that this is the final destination. Once this has been reached, one's innocence has become a memory.

But what about second base? A base that receives far too little attention in my humble opinion. So many glorious sensations to be experienced there.

To me, second base is all about the most delicate, sensitive and under appreciated sex organ on the body: the skin.

A few short centuries ago, the only opportunity for men and women to touch while unmarried was while dancing. Perhaps that's why they did it so often and so artfully. They knew something that we've forgotten - that touch was something sensual and forbidden. To touch each other was an illicit temptation.

We seem to forget that fact so quickly now in our haste to paw at each other. But with each new beginning we are reminded. Before we ever find ourselves straddling and thrusting, it all begins with the intoxicating simplicity of skin touching skin.

Remember how beautifully erotic it can be to simply lie together - unclothed- feeling each other. Intercourse itself can last mere moments, but exploratory caresses can be prolonged to infinity.

To simply lie together requires one to exercise restraint - yet opens you up to eternities of possibilities, imaginings and memories of adolescent wet dreams.

To be a woman - allowing yourself to be open and vulnerable- to gift your trust to another - a moment of unacknowledged care and devotion that you've allowed this other being to possess...
For that moment in time, you have permitted them to explore and handle you. It is a thing of beauty to be cherished. This moment. This allowance.

And what will they give in return? For one does not relinquish such a treasure without expecting something in response.

In return- the woman seeks release. Release from the mundane trivialities of the surrounding world. In return she expects to be worshiped and venerated. To have an private world woven for her of intimate caresses, soft licks and kisses, and beguiling whispers.

The skin is a generous organ- allowing for any number of sensations- ranging from a gentle breeze to a cascading wave of drowning passion.

To feel his fingers tracing along your clavicle - perhaps as his tongue licks your earlobe. How primed are you already? Would this be a delight? Creating shivers and goosebumps? Or might this result too quickly in a soft moan and nails digging into flesh?

To simply look on each other naked is tantamount to surging arousal, as nude bodies are unquestionably sublime works of art. For millenia artists have deicated countless hours and canvasses to the glorification of the human form.

Do we not deserve more than perfunctory groping and thrusting at each other? The gift of pleasuring one another is something that should occasionally be savoured and appreciated like a fine wine.

When we lie alone at night we are reminded of this fact each time we touch ourselves. We do not fumble and grab at our bodies. We sensuously caress and allow ourselves time to build up to arousal. We understand that we are not in a constant state of sexual readiness - to get "into the mood" onerequires a delicate seduction - even if it is a solo activity. We understand when we are following our solitary pursuits that simply touching out skin may be sufficient - before genital stimulation ever occurs.

So I challenge you thus - when next you find yourself with your lover, why not forsake the easy release of penetration and pursue the more challenging endeavour of bringing them to orgasm simply through second base rated touch. A "skin orgasm" if you will...

Nipple Charm Contest Winner!


I would like to congratulate the gorgeous Miss Ruby N. Esque - the winner of my nipple charm contest.

She entered by sending me the fabulous photo above- isn't she amazing??

Thanks to everyone who entered!

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Wet and Slippery


In the package I received from the delightful folk over at PinkCherry.com Sex Toys was some products from the Intimate Organics line.

So today my darlings, we're going to talk a bit about lubrication.

The Intimate Organics Line was created in 2008 to give women and men a safer and more natural choice fro enjoying intimate moments, alone or together. *from the brochure

The lube they sent me was: Hydra Glycerine Free Vegan Friendly Water Base Lubricant

Now I decided to once again do a bit of homework on this. I mean, there's only so much you can say about and do with lube- yet there seems to be a vast array of choices out there.

There seem to be a few main types of lubricant: water-based, oil-based and silicone-based.
After a preliminary search, it seems that w
ater-based is the most functional. It is safe for use with all toys and condoms, cleans the most easily and is least likely to cause any kind of skin reaction.

Intimate Organics seem to have kicked it up a notch: not only is it water-based, it is also made from natural ingredients. For example- the top ingredient is in fact "aqua" (which I suppose is a fancy way of saying water), there's also some alcohol and leaf and berry extracts in there.
The pamphlet also talked about conditione
rs for the skin, which I suppose is where the aloe extracts come in as well.

All in all, I was not terrified to use this on my pink parts.

So since I'm in a wee bit of a dry spell at the moment, this was used strictly on me and my toys the past few nights. And well? It lubed. It made both me and the toys all cool and slick. Insertion was downright dreamy. And it did clean of
f within moments.

There was no noticable smell to this lube, but there was a definite taste to it. Maybe a bit sour? Not awful, but not flavoured either. However, the pamphlet does indicate that it's vegan-friendly. As well, since it's such a high water content, this is definitely a thin, liquidy lube- as opposed to the oil-based that comes out in a thicker gel form.

My only other observation about water-based lubricants, and this one specifically is not particularly new or original. Because it's mostly made of water, it does tend to dry out more quickly than an oil or a silicone-based lube. I
t's one of the trade offs for having a more natural product.

Yes, those other materials might last longer, but they also leave a residue, they're harder to clean, and they might just cause a skin reaction.

I did like this product, but there's nothing overwhelmingly interesting about it. It's a lube. It did it's job. It neither excited nor offended me. Y
ou definitely pay for the "organic" label though -as it is regularly priced at $23.99, on sale at the site for $15.99.

Duchess Rating: 3.5 out of 5

Pleasurists #46 & Reminder About Nipple Charm Contest!

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via allinone


Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #45? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #47? Submit it here before Sunday September 20th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.


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Scarlet Lotus St. Syr


Editor’s Pick



  • G-Twist by Shanna Germain

  • The battery housing is slightly confusing — you have to press the sides in really hard in order to open it (I struggled with it for so long, I thought about asking my neighbor for help, but since I’ve not said anything more to him than “hello” and “oh, it’s really okay that your dog barked all night long, no worries,” I figured that showing up at his doorstep with a pseudo-cock, a couple of batteries and a helpless look wasn’t the world’s best idea).


    Editor’s Note: While there have been a lot of G-Twist reviews lately from all the new GoodVibes Brand Ambassadors I think this one far surpasses the others (including my own). Not to say the others are bad, perish the thought, but just because this one actually made me smile at times and even chuckle at others.


On to the reviews…


Vibrators



Dildos



Anal Toys



Toys for Cocks



Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.



BDSM/Fetish



Adult Books



Adult Movies/Porn



Sex Furniture



Lingerie



Miscellaneous



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Saturday, September 12, 2009

Nipples


So Nikki over at Nipplecharms.com asked me to check out her site, and let herself be persuaded to do a give-away here in my little corner of the universe.

Now, as fond as I am of tattoos, I admit I have very few piercings - only my ears. And as my proclivities lie in other arenas, I was uncertain as to whether nipple clamps and the like would be something that I could write about extensively...

However when I went over to the site, I was pleasantly surprised. There is a nice variety of body jewellery- with a plethora of options in the non-piercing variety.

Now the site itself does have a relatively new or amateurish look to it- you can tell that they are still a relatively small company. But it does have it's charms (no pun intended) and what it's done- it's done well.

There are a small number of items in each category: ranging from adult toys (very few) to earrings, to nipple jewellery, to temporary tattoos, toe rings and more.

Their products are often thematic, such as anklets with handcuffs dangling, necklaces proclaiming MFM, FFM, etc etc.

And of course the largest section is the nipple jewellery - with a variety of chains, dangles, rings, and more - both in pierced and non-piercing styles.

My favourites (and a hint for anyone who would like to send me a little present):

1. Nikki- if you want me to do a review of this product - I would love to, I'm positively fascinated by it...
Intimate Electric Dry Razor Pussy & Body Bare Shavers


2. Crystal tattoos- either around the nipples or belly button is what I would have in mind...
(The Duchess's personal choice? Round Multi Color Flowers Crystals Temp Tatts Single)

3. Belly Button - non-piercing jewellery.
(My fave? Belly Solitaire Marquise cut CZ Flower Double Dangles)

Now - who wants to win a little something??
How about these nipple bells?

There are three ways to enter:

1. Go over to the nipplecharms.com site and let me know what your favourite item is.
2. Tweet about this contest - and either send me a link to the tweet in my comments, or include an @SexyDuchess in the tweet.
3. Send me a photo of you in some nipple jewellery. (And let me know if I can post the photo - I'm sure my readers would love to see it!)

Contest closes: Saturday, September 19 at midnight CST.

Good luck!

Thursday, September 10, 2009

Hot and Fruity


So there's lube - which is awesome, and then there's warming oil - which is spectacular...

The darlings over at PinkCherry.com Sex Toys sent me over some lovely new oil to get naughty with: Hot Stuff Warming Oil - Strawberry Topco

Now never having used warming oil before, I did a little research. My most pressing questions were thus: is it safe to use all over - i.e. will it cause any damage to my delicate little pink parts? How much should I use? Is this something that should just be delicately licked or can I slather it everywhere at will? What's it made of? If it "warms" then does that mean it's all chemically? What exactly does one do with warming oil? Just rub it around and blow on it? Seems like the novelty would wear off quick.

Oh so many questions! To be honest, I found it to be rather a fascinating project.

First of all - what's it made of? Two ingredients: glycerin and flavour.
Now for those of us non-chemists - glycerin is a natural by-product of the soap making process and is all kinds of fabulous for the skin (in a moisturizing way...).
So yeah, moisturizer and flavour- not so panicky about my lady bits anymore.

Now what about the fun parts? What to do? How much?

Well, the "how much" question is something that you'll have to find an answer to yourself. Call it a personal quest. But - I will add the caveat- it is an "oil." So bear that in mind when pulling out your expensive silk sheets - a drop cloth may be in order.

What to do?

Well here's my recommendation for an interesting, and thorough sampling of this product.

First: dribble some on - either yourself or your partner - who am I to make assumptions?
Rub it in a bit and give it a little blow. Feel the heat? Oh yeah.
Next? Give it a little lick. Mmmmm strawberry.

On a very basic level- this product is in fact what it advertises to be: strawberry flavoured and scented - and warming. Blow on it and it will send deliciously hot shivers all over you. Lick it and you get a sweet taste of strawberries. Gotta love a product that delivers.

Next? Well- it calls itself an edible massage oil- so why not rub it all over yourself/partner? Rubbing it also heats it up, and shall I remind you? Glycerin? Moisturizing! And really - when's the last time you gave a massage that hasn't led to sex ? Think of it as foreplay. Even with yourself.

Finally? Why not rub it on his cock or her pussy? Lick it, massage it, heat it up...
Have a partner? No worries about the condom my lovelies- rub it on - slip on the condom, and enjoy the resulting heat. The oil won't have a detrimental effect on the protection...

On your own? Well I can tell you - rub a bit of this onto the toy and it definitely adds to the experience. Why not even run the tube under some hot water beforehand? Even hotter...

Overall?
I did enjoy this product - once I did a bit of homework on the mundane details I began to realize the potential of something that I had never really put much thought into before.
It is messy though- so you do have to be careful using it - or have a much more laissez-faire attitude about cleanliness than I do.

Duchess Rating: 3.5 out of 5

Sunday, September 6, 2009

The Conclusion of the Duchess's Adventure


The entire adventure...

Sometimes it's simply about the risk. The potential for exposure. For discovery. Perhaps an exhibitionist streak that had lain essentially dormant until he made the suggestion.

Sex in public.

Not precisely in the open, but of course the allure lay in the potential for an audience.

But where to choose? A car in a parking lot? A dressing room in a clothing store? A bathroom stall in a restaurant?

So many possibilities, each enticing in their own way. I got wet just thinking about the idea of it. I could hardly wait to see this fantasy fulfilled.

We decided to check out the lingerie store close by. Modeling a few outfits to set the proper mood. It all started out innocently enough- me strutting out in a rainbow of chemises and babydolls. But when I came out in the white merry widow ensemble, things changed. Suddenly he was all over me, not willing to even wait for the parking lot.

He pulled me into the dressing room and pinned me up against the wall- kissing me and pressing his erect cock against me. He unhooked the garters and carefully lowered the lace panties- finding himself on his knees in front of me.

I tired to keep myself quiet for the sake of discretion, but as I felt his tongue between my legs, licking and sucking on my clit, I found it impossible to suppress a moan and keep my breathing from turning to hot ragged gasps.

After a few minutes of this, there came a knock at the door. The salesgirl wanted to make sure that we didn't need anything. I recognized the voice- it was the young blonde who had greeted us when we entered. Very pretty and well endowed.

It struck me as impossible that she didn't realize what we were doing in there - so we opened the door slightly and said that we thought that she could help us. We invited her in and watched as she silently assessed the implied invitation. I was still breathing heavily and my partner smiled at her enticingly.

Her hesitation was all the encouragement we really needed. I glided over to her and kissed her- parting her lips with my tongue while my partner reached under the short babydoll that she wore as her "work uniform."

It soon became apparent that this was not her first dressing room interlude. Or at the very least; not her first FMF action. She proved quite adept at kissing me everywhere as well as running her hands all over my partner's hard body.

She soon had him on his knees - pulling off her silk panties - fingering and licking her hot wet cunt. In the meantime she had helped me pull off my corset and began sucking and biting on my nipples while I arched back and buried my fingers in her mass of hair.

All too soon it seemed her absence was noticed - as we heard the manager wondering by - wondering aloud where she had gotten off to. This was clearly a not-so-subtle hint for all of us to wrap things up. Probably for the best, as we were hardly trying for discretion and quiet at all by that point.

The salesgirl slipped out of the dressing room. I quickly put myself back together and went to make my purchases. The outfit had proven far too effective to pass up.

What to do next? None of us had gotten off as of yet, which was a positively unacceptable situation in my mind.

My partner and I gave one last longing glance at the salesgirl as we left, unfortunately giving her up as a lost cause for the time being.

By now we were more than a little impatient and frustrated, so we steeled for the quick and easy solution. We found a nearby hotel and asked for a room with a balcony. The hotel was arranged in a square with a courtyard in the middle- so when we stepped out onto the balcony we found that we were surrounded by rows of balconies on all three sides. Perfect.

He pined me up against the side wall and began pulling off my clothes while I attempted to do the same to him. Within moments we both stood fully nude in the open for anyone looking our, or on their own balconies to witness.

The balcony itself only had bars enclosing it, so anyone watching would have no difficulty seeing the whole show in graphic detail.

He yanked my hair back and began fingering me as I stroked and pulled on his hot hard cock. I lowered myself in front of him and sucked on his cock and massaged his balls- moving my head in an out taking it in as deep as I could.

He yanked my up roughly by the hair and sucked on my breasts - biting my nipples as I continued to give him a hand job.

He shoved me to the front of the balcony - my breasts hanging over the edge as he spread my legs. One hand squeezed and pinched my nipples while fingering me from behind. He rubbed his cock against my ass while I moaned and writhed like a cat in heat.

I could see several pairs of eyes peep out from slightly opened curtains. A few people were less shy - blatantly coming out onto their balconies to catch the free porn. One man, close enough to hear my ragged breathing undid his trousers with an audible zip. I watched him pull out his semi-erect cock and begin massaging...

I braced myself against the rails as my partner thrust into me without warning from behind - slamming into my pussy without gentleness or apology. I let out a loud moan of pleasure as he began thrusting hard and fast the way I like it.

I watched the masturbating man begin stroking himself in time to my swaying breasts - making soft synchronistic moans, matching my own.

My partner bruisingly, deliciously, clutched my hips - snapping me back with him pumping - grunting and slapping against me - beads of sweat running down both of our bodies.

More and more eyes were noticable in the surrounding balconies as we made no attempt to lower the volume of our gasping and moaning.

I began to verbalize the experience more obviously- demanding to be fucked harder, faster, don't stop, yes, it was so good, fuck yes, so good, God yes, oh...
And as my volume increased, so did that of my partner, the masturbating man, and someone else that I could even see.

My partner decided that the audience deserved a better view - so he pushed me against the side wall - raised my leg onto the balcony railing and continued thrusting- this time facing me and re-commencing his attentions to my breasts.

The man was truly a wonder- simultaneously managing to bite my nipples, finger my clit while thrusting deep into me without losing rhythm. He was obviously meant for a career in the adult film industry.

I soon lost all ability to continue articulating for my viewers- only able to gasp and squeal in time with each thrust.

I felt his pace of pumping increase, if that was even possible- and with a final thrust he came into me with a loud moan.

I took one final look around- gave a little wave and collapsed onto the bed inside, hopeful that we might be able to give an encore performance soon enough.

September Blogbunnie Blog Make-Over Contest

Having seen the amazing make-over done at Aurore's place, I would absolutely loooove to win this contest!

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Rules
for Isabella Snow's September blog makeover contest! Entering is easy! Just copy and paste this (entire) blurb to your blog (make sure the links still work!) and then email Isabella a link to your blog post. The contest deadline is at midnight GMT September 30. One winner will be selected the following day by a drawing of names; the name will be posted here and the winner will be emailed, as well. A new, totally original blog will be completed within two weeks of winning. One entry per blog. *Blogger.com customization only*, see the Blogbunnie Blog Design portfolio for layout options.

Good luck!
xx Isabella

Thursday, September 3, 2009

Choose the Duchess's Adventure III

Read the first two installments here and here.

It struck me as impossible that she didn't realize what we were doing in there - so we opened the door slightly and said that we thought that she could help us. We invited her in and watched as she silently assessed the implied invitation. I was still breathing heavily and my partner smiled at her enticingly.

Her hesitation was all the encouragement we really needed. I glided over to her and kissed her- parting her lips with my tongue while my partner reached under the short babydoll that she wore as her "work uniform."

It soon became apparent that this was not her first dressing room interlude. Or at the very least; not her first FMF action. She proved quite adept at kissing me everywhere as well as running her hands all over my partner's hard body.

She soon had him on his knees - pulling off her silk panties - fingering and licking her hot wet cunt. In the meantime she had helped me pull off my corset and began sucking and biting on my nipples while I arched back and buried my fingers in her mass of hair.

All too soon it seemed her absence was noticed - as we heard the manager wondering by - wondering aloud where she had gotten off to. This was clearly a not-so-subtle hint for all of us to wrap things up. Probably for the best, as we were hardly trying for discretion and quiet at all by that point.

The salesgirl slipped out of the dressing room. I quickly put myself back together and went to make my purchases. The outfit had proven far too effective to pass up.

What to do next? None of us had gotten off as of yet, which was a positively unacceptable situation in my mind.

What should we do? Go vote in the poll on the right...

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

Sexperty - California Exotic Couture Vibe

So the delightful folk over at CalExotics were kind enough to send me a lovely new toy to review. Because your Duchess is now a "Sexpert." Isn't that faboo?

What did they send me you might ask?

They sent me my very own massager from their "Couture" collection - The "gracious" massager.

The deets:
5.25 inches long, and weighs 3.7 ounces. Light and discreet.
Made of silicone and requires 2 AA batteries.
Odorless and tasteless and waterproof.

Now for an exciting change- I decided to see if this so-called massager could actually massage. Meh - not so much. It was OK - but really, who wants to use it for such a mundane purpose anyhow, right?


Likes:
This delightful little toy comes with 7 different types of vibration. The first three are straight vibes with increasiong intensity. The next was kind of a building up pulsation. The next two are kind of a pulsing/thrusting idea with increasing intensity. The last was kinf of a staggered pulsation. For the record, my favourites are # 3 and #6.

I really liked the material too - very velvety smooth - feels fantastic all over.

Dislikes:
The toy is curved, and phallic shaped - which implies that it would be good for thrusting and g-spot stimulation. However, the ends were squared off - which to me made it rather awkward when attempting to thrust with it. I never did manage to get off via thrusting - and honestly didn't try very hard because I found the edges so uncomfortable.

Overall:
I have to say that there are a lot of plusses to this toy, and I can definitely see how some people would really like it - but in general, it wasn't for me. I don't see myself pulling this one out very often. I will say though - that I think silicone is my new favourite material for sex toys - so that is something I will definitely keep in mind.

Rating: 3 out of 5 stars.

Pleasurists #44

ruffle

Ripple Effect II by ~xXTaintedwhispersXx


Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #43? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #45? Submit it here before Sunday August 30th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.


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Editor’s Pick



  • Fresh Chain Leash by AveryDragon

  • Humiliation on its own seems petty and mean; this I do admit. However, humiliation is the key for lust and passion when the person being humiliated secretly enjoys it. [...] Fresh uses bright pastel colors that a guy might get his girl to ease her into the idea of BDSM by showing it can be cute but still strong. In my case, when there are two guys involved, I make my boy take one for the team and work with products he never dreamed of being in.



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