Monday, July 20, 2009

Down and Dirty

I've had some positively stimulating days and nights courtesy of Drew the past few days. That man is insatiable!

And once again he brought a woman with him. Shocking! But Tristan? She was really worth it.
Brilliant and articulate. Experimental and direct. What more can you ask for in a woman?

You see Tristan wrote an absolutely titillating book called "Down and Dirty Sex Secrets." And it was a fantastic read.

To be honest, when Drew, of the oh-so-fabulous Eden Fantasys sent me this book, I was a little apprehensive. I was expecting something along the lines of a Cosmo article. You know the ones they publish every month: "What he REALLY wants but won't tell you - Cosmo knows!" or something like that? Every month the same thing, condescending and unoriginal.

This book? I was totally taken aback with how impressed I was. Not only is it intelligently written (i.e. not talking to you like you're a teenager) it actually acknowledged the way things really are, and not one of the questions that I had running through my head was ignored.

For example? I'm not so much a fan of anal. I know it can be fab- but my one experience with it was less than stellar. So the thought of analingus was completely unappealing in a ew-that's-icky-poo! kinda way. She actually took the time to address the fecal matter situation and how to do it and what to expect. Hmm.

The book starts out in a very logical way- explaining about our boy and girl parts with diagrams. But she's brief and to the point about it. Not clinical, but using correct terminology. And then she moves on in a logical way. From erogenous zones to communication to oral sex/hand jobs to toys, G-spot stimulation, anal, role-playing, fantasy, erotica and finishing with BDSM.

She writes like you're having a conversation with her. She gives tips on how to do things better, and acknowledges where problems may lie. And not all of it is just plain common sense. My favourite example? She presents a scenario in the "Fantasy" chapter about a man who wants a threesome with another woman and his partner isn't into it. She offers options available to you to compromise, and I now have something that I would like to do: go to a strip club with a partner and let him watch while I get a lap dance etc from one of the girls there.

And the BDSM section? I admit - I knew about Doms & subs, but had never heard about tops and bottoms before. And she presented all the different scenarios where one may be a top sometimes, a bottom at others and a "switch" even at other times.

This book? I loved it.

When you're done over at Eden Fantasys in the adult toy section why don't you hop on over to the book section and add it to your order? I promise you won't regret it. I doubt there's any one of us who wouldn't get at least something out of this book.

Rating: 4.5 out of 5.


Topaz said...

Like you, I hate lit that addresses the reader as though the equipment is hand but they are staring at it like a jumbled Rubik's cube.

You make this book sound like it's actually a worthwhile read. Especially the anal part. I need some reading on that.

Thanks for this review. Very helpful.

BlueEyes69 said...

Hey, old friend! I've updated/changed my blog, so I'm hoping you'll visit the new site and become a follower so we can continue to keep up to date!

Luv ya!

Kimberly said...

I also can't stand the cosmo sex tips ("try getting on top." um, thanks.) Thanks for pointing us in this direction.