Wednesday, June 10, 2009

Dominatrix Duchess

Sorry it's been a while lovelies...occasionally life gets in the way of flirting with you all.

So I've been thinking lately about the dom/sub thing. You see on the whole. I've had relatively traditional sex and haven't engaged too much in any kind of fetishes or extreme lifestyles.

The fact that I like things a bit rough, don't mind being tied down and have rape fantasies implies a submissive personality to me. But I think "submissive" and I think about being ordered around, and being spanked. And that doesn't really do it for me.

I think I just like rough sex, but want it on my own terms.

And a part of me does fantasize about having a sex slave. One who would massage me, and do whatever I ordered him to do whenever I ordered it. Cause sometimes? I really just want my nipples sucked. That's all. Once it's done he can go away.

See? I want it on my terms.

But, the way I understand most "Masters" is that everything they do is actually for the pleasure of their sub/slave. (And their own pleasure of course)

So this begs the question:

Am I just kind of bossy and lazy for just wanting a slave to do whatever I want for my own pleasure alone?

Am I missing something in all this?
What about you? Dom? Sub?

6 comments:

Kimberly said...

I like the rough, like the occasional smack, hair pull or bondage - but I don't see myself as a sub in the extreme way that many really desire. I do like the psychological game once in a while, but for me it is occasional dabble, not a lifestyle.

I have basically no dom in me. (Um, but I might like some..tee hee.)

Are you lazy? No. Horny? Yes. ;)

Nolens Volens said...

I agree with Kimberly LOL

Aurore said...

Well you already know what I am but I'm really only sexually submissive; it doesn't really translate to any other aspect of my life ;)

It absolutely doesn't make you lazy at the moment I just really want someone to go down on me and then leave me alone.

Ms Scarlett said...

I admit I'm new to this world, but do you really have to pick just one?

I can't tell you how many times I have longed to have a sex slave at my beck and call. I so occasionally like sex a bit rough, but it's more playful and rambunctious than dominating. I don't consider myself submissive in the least, but hold me down and have your way with me?

Hell, yes.

Missy said...

I am with Kimberly as well...dabbling in this and that. That is the beauty of it...combine what you like, and enjoy it! You are not lazy either.

Sexy PTA Mom said...

Hmmmm. I have been playing the sub lately, and it is a lot of fun, but I know that I am definitely in control of the situation. I do like my sex nice and rough, with a bit of spanking thrown in, but I do get pissed off when ordered around, and there are certain words that I really do not like to be called. So, I guess, if he's well endowed, very smart & makes me come like crazy, I'll get off on obeying him--for the time being. :)