This is a message I just received from an adult site (all typos, and grammatical questionability are his own):
Hi Now I know you are young and have wild fantasy's but I felt I would set the record strait for you . You want a man to take you ,be rough with you ,but in reality you want to be the dominate one .Then you want to be the submissive one .My advice chose which one you want to be ,or you will be disapointed in your life .I know there are "so called switchs " but in reality they are one side or the other and when they do the other side it is never fully as good as a true dom or sub. So my sweet enjoy your life and should you ever get to calgary look me up and I will leave your ass bruised and your cunt sore from being used . master j
Now Master J clearly feels that he has deep psychological insights into me based on a few lines in a profile, and some carefully selected blog posts that I chose to carry over there.
However he raises an (interesting?) ...well a point anyways. The thing is, I don't really think I'm a D or an s. I think I want to be kinda bossy and bitchy every once in a while. But at the same time, I would also like to have someone tie me up and take me. But being bound and fucked isn't the same and being dominated in my mind.
To me it's just a matter of taste, and quite simply, I like it a bit harder and rougher, and less sweet and romantic. But being spanked, or punished is not a turn-on for me. And I know that there's a very special relationship between master and pet, and I would never presume to claim that I could fulfill either of those roles to anyone's satisfaction.
That being said, you've all read my posts about wanting a slave on here. And that my darlings? Let me clarify again...is purely selfish and lazy. For a while, I would simply like someone to do whatever it pleases me to
As for master j? His arrogance and condescension are precisely why I have no interest in being a sub. It is an absolute impossibility that I could be obedient and respectful when being spoken to like that. I pride myself on my intelligence, and if I choose to dumb it down? It's strictly for my own needs and pleasure and not to placate any man's ego.
Wow - what an arrogant dick! He threw in a little free psychoanalysis for you - how nice of him. Based on this and some comments Aurore has made, I'm starting to thing most Doms on D/s sites are not really that - they are guys who want the trill of control and who desperately want to get laid. Or maybe something else. But this is not the behavior I expect to see from a Dom.
ReplyDeleteI can't decide if that message to you is more pathetic or funny.
I meant to comment on this last night. Beyond the chuckling at this man's idiocy...I think the problem with your Master J and with a lot of the "doms" I complain about is that they aren't truly doms. The doms that I admire, who respect, love and cherish the subs who serve them don't condescend to them. As a matter of fact they like their subs to be intelligent, to have personality and above all to not be a doormat.
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm sure you didn't mean it to sound that way but no sub worth her salt would stand for letting a "dom" treat her that way or dumb herself down to please him.
Most importantly though did you respond - please tell me you did. I like to play with these types; they provide some entertainment on a quiet Saturday night ;)
Well, I wouldn't put all doms in a single category. Some have class, some clearly don't.
ReplyDelete...........yeah, I think I'd give this all the credence it deserves, which is exactly none. The only thing I saw that he did right was that at least he said you were young. Unfortunately, everything he said after that was bollocks.
ReplyDeleteI don't really see you as either the dom or sub type. As you said, you like it rough sometimes, but that doesn't mean you have an urge to be humiliated or forced. You just like a little more oomph in your encounters.
How is that slave application working out for you, by the way? Gotten any good candidates yet? :)
-- PB
I'm embarrassed that he's from the same province as me.... ugh.
ReplyDeleteWhat an arrogant little jerk.
I am not a bottom and If I were, self-styled Master J would cure me of the desire.
ReplyDeleteJust pitiful. Sadly, there are more than one of his type, wandering around and talking nonsense.